20 Actions that Make You Happier and Healthier
To understanding the true meaning of “less is more” it is highly important to have clarity about where we are and where we want to go in life. The principle of “less is more” varies based on a person’s values, as well beliefs, and on certain situations. Less implies simplicity, not mediocrity.
It is easy to tell where our hearts are, when we reflect on the things that we say more and do more.
The principle of “less is more” also applies to our behaviors and attitudes. We are perfectly imperfect human beings. What we do, speaks louder than what we say; this is the power of action. We may have great intentions, though meaningless without acting on our intentions.
The good news is that we can learn to live a happy and healthy lifestyle.
Here are 20 actions to be happier and healthier:
- Criticize less.
We tend to tell people what they did wrong and point out their mistakes. This, far from helping them, lowers their morale and discourages them. We need to be more encouraging and provide objective and thoughtful feedback instead.
- Gossip less.
Speaking negatively or unpleasantly about others, when they are not present, is gossip. Gossiping harms both our reputation and trustworthiness. We need to be more respectful and build others up instead.
- Hate less.
Hating others is more damaging to us than to others. It has been scientifically proven that holding onto hate contributes to developing cancer. We need to instead be more understanding, forgiving, and loving.
- Stress less.
Stressing out is part of life, but what is not normal is allowing our levels of stress to get out of control. There are things that we can and can’t control. We need to be more kind to ourselves and focus on what matters most to us instead.
- Envy less.
Resenting others for who they are and for the things they possess is envy. This shows that we are not happy with ourselves. We need to be more grateful for what we have in our lives and never take anything for granted.
- Complain less.
Complaining implies negativity. When we tend to talk about the same things over and over in a negative way, we are complaining. We need to reflect on the good things that have happened to us and talk about them instead.
- Reject less.
There are no super powers in any of us. Relying totally on ourselves leads to stress, weariness, and resentment towards others. We need to be more open minded and more accepting of the help that others may offer us.
- Frown less.
Frowning takes more effort than smiling. Many times, we are not aware of how much we frown. Frowning makes us look unfriendly. We need to be more conscious about our body language and instead, aim to smile more.
- Overthink less.
When we overthink, confusion and doubt arise; and they can create unnecessary stress and anxiety in us. We need to engage in fun activities and exercise more often to combat the recurring and negative thoughts.
- Assume less.
Assuming things leads to misunderstandings and trouble at times. It also shows lack of responsibility in us. We need to be more aware about the danger of this bad habit and clear things up before any assumption is made.
- Judge less.
It is easier to see what others do wrong than to see this in ourselves. Judging others before we look at ourselves for what we are, is a character flaw. We need to be more compassionate to others and more mindful of our flaws.
- Hurt less.
Our words and actions have the power to hurt others if we are not careful about it. Everything that goes around, comes around. We need to not pay evil with evil and instead be prudent and kind
- Lie less.
There is no such truth as half-truths, small truths, or white lies. A lie is a lie. The more lies we tell to ourselves and to others, the more we get used this lifestyle. We need to be more honest in what we do and what we say.
- Worry less.
It is true that saying something is easier than acting on it. Nonetheless, worrying excessively can rob us of our joy. It is normal to worry to some degree, not to an extreme. We need to be believe more in ourselves and have more faith
- Impress less.
Trying to impress others all the time is exhausting physically and emotionally. It is good exercise to examine the reasons why we want to continually impress people. We need to instead, be more humble and true to ourselves.
- Offend less.
In life, not everything goes as we plan it. If people who we love, admire, and respect fail us at something, we do not need to be offensive to them. We need to be more forgiving and understanding .
- Blame less.
Taking responsibility for our own actions shows maturity in us; blaming others for things that went wrong shows a lack of maturity. We need to be more thoughtful, take a step back and not be so reactive.
- Ignore less.
How many times do we come to the office and ignore our coworkers as we pass by them? We are distracted or simply lack manners. We need to be more friendly and well-mannered with others.
- Pretend less.
It is a hard job to try to be like someone else. We will never be successful at it and as a consequence, we will feel exhausted, frustrated, and never satisfied. We need to be more genuine and embrace our uniqueness instead.
- Yell less.
Yelling at work, at home, at school, and everywhere is disrespectful. If our objective is to get someone’s attention, constantly yelling makes us a bully. We need to instead be more reasonable and more polite to others.
We all benefit from doing less of negative things and more of positive ones. Making this a habit will enhance our lives and the lives of those around us, too.
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17 Priceless Things to Make You Happier
Things in life are not as complex as we perceive at times. This tends to happen for various reasons like thinking too much and accepting some lies as truths. What we believe in and what we feed our minds with has a positive or negative effect in our lives. Nurturing body, mind, soul and spirit is essential to live happier.
There is a myriad of things that we can do day in and day out to help us achieve a happy lifestyle. These are things that, for the most part, require a minimal effort from us. We need to regularly do more of what matters most to us to significantly improve our lives and to impact the lives of those around us.
It has been scientifically proven that smiling, loving, and learning — among other things — boost our health and happiness. Why not do more of this sort of things starting now? The benefits that we will reap will be countless and we will thank ourselves for it later. The more we do these things, the more naturally they will become for us to do.
- Smile more
Smiling makes us look better. A smile is one of the best accessories that we can wear; and best of all, it does not cost anything. Smiling at people is contagious. A smile can brighten someone’s day.
- Give more
Giving creates more abundance in our lives and it also makes us better people. We can give of our resources such as our time and talents. At other times, we can give of our finances. There are always people who can benefit from our giving.
- Hug more
Hugging is a way of demonstrating affection. People will rarely reject a hug. Hugs feel good and are healthy for everyone. A hug a day can take more than a worry away. This is incredible. A hug is a beautiful thing with no price tag attached to it.
- Listen more
Listening to others helps us be more empathetic. There is a time to talk and there is a time to listen. We tend to talk more than we listen. Hearing someone speak is not listening. Listening is giving our undivided attention to someone.
- Get out more
Getting out of the office or home is good for us. Each day, we need a minimum of 30 minutes of sunlight exposure for our overall health. A daily 20-minute walk around the block or at the park can dramatically enhance our mood and energy.
- Help more
Helping others is a way to enrich our lives. When we help others, we help ourselves as well. Worry and anxiety may vanish as we focus on meeting the needs of others. Our help can make a world of difference in a person’s life.
- Simplify more
Simplifying our lifestyle allows us to be more productive and organized. Getting rid of clothes, furniture, books and other things that we no longer use, declutters our lives. The less (unnecessary) stuff we possess, the more we can enjoy life.
- Focus more
Focusing on the people and the things that matter most to us is essential. We are constantly faced with tons of distractions. We can either allow distractions to rule our lives or take charge by focusing on what matters most in our lives.
- Rest more
Resting is vital for our health. When we rest, our body re-energizes and heals itself. Sleeping 8 hours a day is optimal; anything less than 6 hours can make us feel tired and irritated, and decrease our concentration and productivity as well.
- Love more
Loving people opens doors of happiness. Love is not just about being romantic, love is much more than that. Caring for others is a way to show our love. Being polite, understanding, patient, and respectful are more ways to show our love to others.
- Forgive more
Forgiving is a decision, not a feeling. Forgiving others sets them free from the prison of our hearts. When we decide to forgive others, we allow for healing come and fill our hearts. Holding onto grudges hurts us more and creates bitterness, and sickness at times.
- Learn more
Learning new things keeps our minds sharp and helps us gain more knowledge. Adopting learning as a lifelong habit is one of the best things that we can do for ourselves. We can learn from others, from taking a class and from observing, too.
- Read more
Reading expands our knowledge and increases our creativity among many other things. We learn when we read; the more we read, the more we learn. Reading helps us be more educated and stay current with what is going on in the world.
- Socialize more
Socializing is part of our human nature. We were born to live in community, not in isolation. Gathering and having face-to-face conversations with friends, family, and others is key in life. We are way passed the Stone Age.
- Thank more
Being grateful is priceless. Taking the time to say thanks for a job well done, or for a nice gesture from someone, speaks positively about us; and most importantly, it makes others feel appreciated. Giving thanks never goes out of style.
- Move more
Moving forward with our thinking and moving physically is advantageous for us. Failing to move keeps us in a static state. Our bodies need to move to function properly. Mental and physical exercise are always needed in life.
- Express more
Expressing how we feel is necessary. We need to find ways to express ourselves more effectively and meaningfully. People appreciate it when we are genuinely honest and express our sincerity and gratitude to them. Words as well as actions as a form of expression.
By Ivette K. Caballero
12 Qualities of Leaders Who Lead with Heart & Mind
Leaders who possess the ability to lead with their head and their heart are highly impactful and influential in the lives of those they lead. As Nelson Mandela wisely said, “A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination.”
Leaders who lead only with their heads give the impression that they are uncaring and emotionless, and leaders who lead only with their hearts give the impression that they are extremely emotional and afraid of hurting the feelings of others with their words and actions. Therefore, the key to leading with head and heart is a healthy and balanced approach.
When a leader leads with his head and with his heart together, he creates an environment where others feel empowered, encouraged, and safe. More so, this type of leader is clear on his vision and performs at high standards for everyone’s benefit.
A leader who leads with his head and his heart together goes beyond his call of duty to build a lasting rapport with his people. He puts people first because he knows that when people are engaged in what they do, they become more motivated, more engaged and more productive. Consequently, profits naturally soar.
Here are some qualities of leaders who lead with their head and heart:
- They make people feel special: They recognize the unique talents and contributions of those they lead by taking the time to get to know them personally. They pay attention to what people do and take the initiative to convey gratitude, encouragement and appreciation.
- They connect with people: They love their people and connect with them by being respectful and by having a constant attitude. They are aware that connecting with others is highly important to lead effectively. They inspire trust and are sensible to the needs and interests of others.
- They listen to people: They care about what people have to say and put themselves in their place to see things from an objective point of view. They acknowledge how others feel and genuinely engage in a conversation, and give appropriate replies.
- They create a safe environment: They focus on the safety of their people because it is crucial for them to foster work engagement, learning opportunities and increased performance. Safety promotes higher levels of productivity and effective communication, personally and professionally.
- They foster open dialogue with people: They promote dialogue as a way to build a strong foundation of trust where everyone feels included, listened to and valued. Their communication style is clear, simple, and inviting. Open dialogue is essential in establishing healthy relationships.
- They are reasonable: They are open and willing to work well with everyone. They are more concerned about listening and helping others than imposing rules. Judging and criticizing are actions that they completely avoid. It is never about their way or the high way.
- They cherish values: They build a strong leadership foundation based on values that are visible and admirable to others. Respect, honesty, integrity, trust, communication, accountability, collaboration, teamwork and excellence are some of the values that they live by.
- They are wisely vulnerable: They recognize their weaknesses, admit their mistakes, ask for forgiveness, open themselves up to others and do not pretend to be okay when they are not. Vulnerability shows transparency and humanity on their part, and works powerfully to build trust.
- They are grateful: They show and express gratitude through their actions and their words. There is nothing too small or too big that they are not grateful for. They emphasize in acknowledging the efforts of others as a way of appreciation.
- They are flexible: They realize that things will not always turn out to be as planned. They adjust their plans as needed and are gracious with their people. They offer their unconditional support to those they lead without being harsh or offensive.
- They are generous: They share of their resources — knowledge, time, wisdom, finances, etc.– to meet the needs of their people. They inspire others to be more and accomplish more through their actions. Being generous is a value that is ingrained in them.
- They are modest: They admit that being a leader implies great commitment and responsibility. They are constantly learning to be more prepared and more resourceful to others. Most importantly, they wholeheartedly know that their people are the reason why they lead.
“To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
by Ivette K. Caballero